When we use 'should' statements, it basically means we are trying to motivate ourselves. It is as if we have to give ourselves a hard time before we can be expected to do something. Also, when we direct 'should' statements toward others, we usually feel emotions of anger, frustration and resentment.
One of the techniques I use in my work is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which relates to how our thoughts/feelings affects our actions. Helps to change our thought patterns to be more productive and more self-affirming in a positive way. Our thoughts and the words we use are powerful, so we have to remember what we are creating. Our words and thoughts are energy.
When you are thinking and using positive words like "I am lovable" or negative words like "I am worthless", ask yourself "What am I creating? How do I like to see myself?"
You are important as everyone else. The way you are thinking and nurturing yourself is your first priority.
Our thoughts create our reality.
What do you like to see? What is your desire?
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